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I posted this is in another subreddit and got mixed opinions.

My fiancée (26F) and I (27M) have been dating for 4 years, and we officially got engaged last month. 

My fiancée and I are pretty open with each other. Last week, my fiancée asked me if I was open to wearing a penis sleeve, and she had heard a lot of good things about it online. I was sort of shocked, because while I don’t have the biggest member down there, it is average sized, and I’ve never heard any complaints about it in my life. I had never asked her this before, but I asked her then if she had experiences with a bigger member, and if it was more satisfying. My fiancée seemed hesitant to answer but she said yes, that she did with one her one of her exes. That was sort of like a gut punch and I felt like shit, but I told her I would think about it. 

The next night, I told my fiancée that I was open to wearing it, but that I would also prefer if she lost some weight and looked a bit prettier like one of my exes to stimulate me more. I immediately regretted saying it, and we barely spoke after that. She cried a few minutes later. 

The next day, my fiancée and I spoke again and she apologized for asking me to wear the sleeve, and for not taking my feelings into account when she asked me that question. I too apologized to her for asking her to look prettier, and I told her I didn’t really mean it, and it just came from a place of hurt. We both then laughed, and we’re back to normal now.

Was I an AH for asking her to become prettier? I didn’t really mean it, it just came from a place of hurt. But my fiancée asking me to wear a sleeve did hurt me a lot.

I know she knows it's his name and probably likes to use it to get under my skin and managed to say it like 5 times in the span of a minute so either she's talking to him again or she's playing games.

Well two can play that game. I discovered their little affair last spring but they'd covered most of their tracks so I didn't go as far as telling the other victim of the affair, his girlfriend. I did however find out both their names and phone numbers and kept them in my email. I verified they're still using the same ones.

Unless you all convince me otherwise I'm sending a text to the other victim outing the entire affair. They've been together for several years so it will sting a lot.

And since they supposedly broke off contact my spouse shouldn't hear from him when his relationship is ruined right? If she shows irritation and sudden mood change I'll know he complained to her about it but she can't say anything about it without revealing they still keep in touch only fume about it.

What do yall think?

I wanted to give you all an update on what's been happening since the fallout with Lily. Firstly, thank you so much for your support and understanding during this tough time. It means the world to me.

After everything went down, I felt like I needed to reach out to some of our mutual friends to explain my side of the story. Some of them totally got where I was coming from and were really supportive. But, you know how it goes, some of them sided with Lily too, which was tough to hear.

It's been about a month since the wedding, and I still haven't talked to Lily. We're still friends on social media, so I see her updates every now and then, which is a bit weird. But I've come to terms with the fact that maybe our friendship wasn't as solid as I thought.

Skipping the wedding wasn't an easy decision, but I felt like I had to stick to my guns. It's been rough dealing with the fallout, but I'm starting to realize that real friendships are about more than just going along with whatever someone else wants.

Thanks again for all your support. It's been a tough journey, but I'm getting there, one step at a time.

The nba doesn’t want to see this corpse of a series go further

I watched the entire debate between Hancock and Dibble, and wow. Dibble just clearly and calmly presented what archeologists know, how they know them, and why there’s not only no evidence for an advanced global civilization 12,800 years ago as Graham claims, but that all the evidences shows that such a claim is BS.

The totality of Graham’s evidence is essentially grainy vacation photos of him and his wife scuba diving. Then when that was evidence was discredited he just pivoted to making personal attacks and crying about archeologists attacking him, and blaming Dibble for that. And Joe backed up Graham’s ridiculous attacks as well! And even if archeologists were mean to him, how does anything he talked about provide any evidence for Graham’s huge claim about a lost civilization??

Incredibly well done by Dibble though. Laid out all the arguments against Graham’s ridiculous thesis, summarized my things archeologists do, and to any reasonable person exposed Graham for the crybaby quack that he is.

My husband is mixed (black father and a white mother). I am white. We have two beautiful children. They look completely different and everyone always comments on how different their complexion is. Our oldest has beautiful caramel skin with brown eyes and is almost as dark as my husband. Our second is white with a hint of a yellow undertone and will have either green or hazel eyes. He looks yellowish in person but in pictures is very white. His face is also much lighter than his body. Our son is 6 months old.

For the first 2-3 months, our son was darker and my husband was happy. But he began to get lighter as the months went on. His eyes also changed from very dark grey to blue/grey on the outside with brown in the middle. He was born with VERY dark hair and now has blonde hair. I (and my entire family) have green/blue eyes. My hair is now dark brown, but it was blonde for the first 8 years of my life. My MIL is blonde with hazel eyes.

When the baby began to appear lighter, my husband asked for a paternity test due to his friends and coworkers all bringing up how light our second child is. I obliged because I know that my husband would’ve let the wound fester and hold resentment towards me and the baby as he’s had multiple friends have women cheat. He’s also been cheated on and gets weird about things like that.

The paternity test was an oral DNA swab and I did not touch any portion of it because I didn’t want him to come back and say it was because I did something. The only thing I did was place it in the mail with him watching me. The results showed that he is the father.

We did the test when the baby was 4 months old. He hasn’t really brought it up but I can tell that how light our son is really bothers him.

Tonight, he started saying that he didn’t think the baby was his and that he wasn’t the father. Our oldest heard and said “yes you are our daddy.” He mentioned it multiple times throughout the night. He said that he won’t be a father to him because he’s not a black child. And that about broke me. Baby boy deserves the world and I want to make sure his dad is active in his life.

We have not had issues with trust prior to this and I have not done anything to warrant this. I love him and he’s an amazing father to our oldest. He does play with the baby and will care for him. But he always makes little comments about who his dad might be. I’m worried that those comments will affect our oldest and the little one on a subconscious level. They also hurt me.

I have encouraged him to go get another paternity test done via blood draw if he really felt that our son way not his.

I guess I need advice on how to deal with this.