Sheโs your BFF โ and that means forever, right? Sadly, not necessarily. Your bestie for the last however many years might feel itโs time to move on. The worst part is she doesnโt bother telling you that. Instead, you just start noticing subtle (and more obvious) signs that sheโs dumping you. Itโs painful, but the sooner you recognize whatโs going on, the sooner you can talk to her and get it over with. The last thing you want is to desperately cling to a friendship thatโs already over.
- Sheโs suddenly busier than ever. She used to always want to hang out, call, or text. Now sheโs always โbusy.โ She claims she has new responsibilities at work or that thereโs a lot going on right now, but thereโs no proof of that anywhere. WTF? Sheโs full of excuses, but they get old really quickly.
- You catch her lying. Speaking of excuses, you know theyโre lies. She claims she doesnโt feel well, but you hear laughter in the background. You ask whatโs going on and suddenly thereโs a bad connection. Sheโs lying because sheโs too cowardly to tell you itโs over.
- Instagram proves sheโs moving on. The woman with the ultra-busy life doesnโt seem to mind taking a dozen selfies of herself out with her other friends every weekend to post on Instagram. Wait, didnโt she blow you off that same night? Oh yeah, it must be more lies โ but this time you have proof.
- She makes excuses to cut your time short. If you didnโt know better, youโd think she still had a curfew. Instead of hanging out for hours talking about whatever, she has to leave early all the time. Since when does a grown woman need to get to bed at 9 p.m. on a Saturday night? Unless sheโs got an early booty call, sheโs just trying to get rid of you.
- Sheโs far less supportive than she used to be. You could really use a shoulder after your latest breakup, but all you get is a few โyeahโs, โItโs okayโs, โuh huhโs, and possibly even a, โWhat? I zoned out for a second.โ Why the sudden change? She just doesnโt care anymore.
- She tries to get you to dump her. Sometimes your best friend will go out of her way to make your life miserable. Sheโll turn into the ultimate bitch, flirt with your boyfriend or disappear for several weeks. The reason? Sheโs trying to get you to dump her so she doesnโt have to.
- Her interests start to change. Every womanโs interests change over time. When your bestieโs interests drastically change and sheโs showing other signs, you might have a problem. Itโs a sign she might be more interested in hanging out with other friends than you.
- Sheโs always talking about her new group of friends. Are the majority of your conversations about her new group of friends? Is she always excited to go out with them, but never has time for you? I hate to tell you, but your BFF is trying to tell you that she prefers her new friends.
- She starts texting like a guy. You send her texts, but she ignores them. If she does, itโs a day later with the classic excuse that the text came in late or her phone was on the fritz. She starts reminding you of your last boyfriend who didnโt seem to understand texting etiquette.
- Youโre always the one asking her to hang out. Are you the one making all the effort? Does she ever try to make plans with you? If she really wanted to be your best friend, sheโd make some kind of effort. Sheโd be eager to spend time with you. Stop making all the plans and see what happens. If she doesnโt reach out after a few weeks, itโs a major sign.
- She cancels plans at the last minute. You know, the more signs she gives you, the more she sounds like a bad boyfriend. For instance, youโve made plans, gotten ready and are even on your way to meet her. Right when you arrive, she texts or calls to cancel. Itโll be some lousy excuse and itโll happen often.
- Sheโs calling someone else her bestie. In the middle of talking about her new friends, she slips and calls someone else her bestie. She doesnโt even catch it herself, but you notice. All you want to do is go home and cry while sheโs still happily talking about her new best friend now that sheโs dumping you.
- Your other friends give you the sad news. Occasionally, another friend will take pity on you. Sheโll hate the way your best friend is treating you. Sheโll point out all the signs and even give you the proof that itโs over. This friend might even turn out to be your new BFF.
No one wants to get dumped by their best friend. Youโve shared so much together. However, itโs best to just let it go when all the signs are there. You will meet someone new and itโll be even better than before.