Jordan Gray believes that your partner deserves to know how much she affects you.
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There is a distinct lack of praise and appreciation in our intimate relationships.
My female clients frequently tell me things like…
“I just want to know that he still finds me attractive.”
“Sometimes I can’t even tell if he still wants to be with me.”
“A lot of the time during sex he feels really distant. I don’t know if he’s thinking about someone else or just doesn’t want to look at me as much anymore.”
Your partner deserves to know how much they affect you.
And they want to know that you find them attractive.
Here are three ways that you can make your partner feel like the most beautiful woman in the world.
With your eyes
Look at her like she’s all you could ever hope for.
Look at her like your eyes are desert sand, and she is the ocean.
Look at her in awe. Look at her in disbelief. Look at her with hunger in your eyes.
Drink her up with your eyes and let her beauty seep into you.
With your hands
Touch her like you’ve never touched a body before.
Touch her like you won’t be seeing her again for months.
Touch her as if her skin were made of silk.
Touch her from an internal place of awe.
Touch her gently. Grab her lustfully.
Touch her like you’re healing every one of her emotional demons with each caress.
Touch her like you are the luckiest person in the world.
With your mouth
Tell her exactly what you find so sexy about her.
Tell her what she does to you.
Tell her about how she makes you dizzy.
Tell her how you couldn’t love and respect her mind any more than you already do.
Tell her how much you love and appreciate her and let it shine through in how you say it to her.
Let your words, voice, and body language all be a love letter to her beauty, intelligence, and depth of intuition.
Tell her what you love about her and tell her often.
Let her know what you love about her so frequently that it’s never far from her mind.
Tell her so often that if you never had an opportunity to add more, you would feel complete with everything that you ever said to her.
Just…
Love her.
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Thanks for the reminder.. I am head over heels for my amazing girlfriend. Wee have been together for four years and not a day passes without me feeling like the luckiest man on the planet. I don’t, or should I say feel that no matter how hard I try, or how much I think I do I always seem to disappoint myself with the results. She deserves the best and I’m just a,,,, well dare I say ( just a man) I love her like the moon loves the stars. I need her more than flowers need the rain. Anything… Read more »
This was a big help. Thank you so much. I finally figured out how to communicate the inner most thoughts I had for her. She really appreciated it.
Great article Jordan, although written from a mans perspective. Reason I say this is; Ive done and (given the opportunity) continue to do these, all these things and yet get told “you’re too intense” and “the honeymoon stage cant last forever” and too many more to even begin to recall. Now admittedly Ive chosen the wrong women to share this emotion, these feelings and actions with, of that theres no doubt> However, its the compilation of these actions, that seem to upset far too many women. I try to keep in mind that this just means theyre not ready for… Read more »
MIke! If I had a boyfriend like you, I would be the happiest woman in the world!!! and again!!! You’re not too intense. You’re masculine. A true man. An honest man. I feel man often choose women they’re not that attracted to, for fear, Fear that their emotions will not be reciprocated. Myself, I’ve always wanted that kind of admiration. And I cn give it back. And I do give it back. I’ve been told I’m narcisstic, but always had the feeling they just meant I was too intense. A few years ago a boyfriend I loved deeply just laughed… Read more »
Also, I think people really are afraid of such intensity. The fear is of losing. Of showing oneself naked with one’s emotions. I think what makes a mature person is to be like that.
Will – here are a few suggestions if you’re feeling a bit out of love… make a compliment about something small and specific “I always love your sense of humour”, “thanks so much for always doing my laundry”, “your hair looks lovely”. Women just like to be appreciated – and there are hundreds of areas to be appreciated. SweetD – I disagree with your advice. All relationships wax and wane, and the low points are where some investment in your partner pays off. Don’t jump ship when you hit a wave – keep going and enjoy calm, clear waters and… Read more »
While the sentiments are nice, I found the whole message pretty shallow and simplistic. Relationships are complicated and every one is different. It also fails to address what you should say if you DON’T feel this way. Should you lie and be disingenuous? To someone that is an appalling liar who feels guilty with anything less than the truth, that sounds wrong. If I come across as shallow/crass/unromantic/etc then that’s probably a bit misleading. I often and loudly decry how wonderful my wife is. I’m just saying that if I didn’t feel that way anymore, I don’t think its right… Read more »
If you no longer love your woman like that then kindly step aside so the next guy may. All you’re doing is wasting your limited time and worse, HERS. Just go. No lying necessary.
Hi Jordan
Thank you!
My pleasure Silke! I’m glad you liked it 🙂