Skip to Content

Every product on this page was chosen by a Harper's BAZAAR editor. We may earn commission on some of the items you choose to buy.

HBZ120118_225

Your Guide to Perfectly Executed Holiday Cocktail Attire

Deciphering the party season's most ambiguous dress code.

By

While it's easy to grab an LBD and a bottle of wine and hit the holiday circuit, we both know you're better than that. But there are certain rules and guidelines to follow when dressing for your favorite fete. Is it work-related? Is there a dress code? Is this host Insta-friendly? Read on for tips and tricks for being true to yourself this holiday season and making a chic entrance every time.

1

Pay attention to the information you're given.

Fashion, Formal wear, Fashion design, Dress, Suit, Event, Haute couture, Carpet, Flooring, Premiere,
Miguel Reveriego

While it may seem like 'cocktail attire' is an empty phrase stamped on every invitation—one that serves no purpose but to make you agonize over the uncertainty of its sartorial meaning—consider it in the context of the event details and it may start to make a bit more sense. Take into account the event purpose, in addition to the time and place. Your best friend's wedding will require very different attire than a corporate event or fashion party. Furthermore, an event taking place at a swanky hotel will call for a dressier outfit than something held at a restaurant around other non-guests/patrons, and definitely more so than a party held at someone's home. Check out the hours, too—evening start times typically suggest a more formal fête than those scheduled earlier in the afternoon or day.

2

Raey V-neck tinsel midi slip dress

V-neck tinsel midi slip dress
Now 60% Off
$172 at Matches Fashion

Bring the party decorations with you...

3

Insta-Worthy

HBZ120118_225
Mariano Vivanco

While some hosts like a private affair, others create their own hashtags and would feel utterly offended if you didn't tag them. Always dress like the paps will be there, but make sure you're clear on whether the event is social-media friendly or not.

Advertisement - Continue Reading Below
4

Keep the host in mind.

Green, Blue, Turquoise, Aqua, Kitchen, Room, Teal, Turquoise, Interior design, Furniture,
Ditte Isager

If your host/hostess is known to be old-fashioned or traditional, dress more conservatively than you would if the host were especially avant-garde. Your fashion editor friend will likely have a more relaxed interpretation of cocktail attire than your boyfriend's Republican parents.

5

Dress appropriately for the season.

Clothing, Dress, Fashion model, White, Cocktail dress, Shoulder, Fashion, Neck, Leg, Day dress,
BFA

Choose an ensemble that is appropriate for the time of year and style it accordingly. A colorful floral number and strappy sandals might be just right for a springtime soirée, while a winter event will likely call for closed-toed shoes and an evening coat. Editor's tip: A touch of fur is ultra-glam for cold-weather months. If it's around the holidays, the dress code tends to open up to include options with a festive bent (think metallics and siren red).

6

STAUD Marwa ruffled polka-dot tulle midi dress

Marwa ruffled polka-dot tulle midi dress

When in doubt, go with polkadots.

Advertisement - Continue Reading Below
7

Back to Black

2018 LACMA Art + Film Gala - Arrivals
Axelle/Bauer-Griffin //Getty Images

In a season of red, green, velvet and anything shimmery, you can't go wrong with a great black silk slip dress. It's elegant, easy and foolproof. Sleek hair is its best accessory.

8

Don't Fear Some Bling

Cobalt blue, Clothing, Blue, Electric blue, Street fashion, Jeans, Fashion, Footwear, Neck, Shoulder,
Getty Images

While minimalist girls like Pernille may not be caught dead in overall sequins, one standout item like shoulder-sweeping crystal earrings takes her festive miles. Keep the rest of the look streamlined but elegant and let your bijoux do all the heavy holiday lifting.

9

Stella + Ruby Crystal Fringe Earrings

Crystal Fringe Earrings
Now 10% Off

A little bling is always a good idea.

Advertisement - Continue Reading Below
10

Skip extreme hemlines—in either direction.

Clothing, Dress, Fashion, Leg, Formal wear, Little black dress, Fashion model, Cocktail dress, Shoulder, Neck,
Getty Images

Appropriate lengths fall somewhere between mid-thigh and mid-calf. Save floor-skimming gowns for black tie affairs, and definitely reserve dangerously short minis for nightclubs and bachelorette parties.

11

Have Fun with Accessories

Fenty Beauty by Rihanna Anniversary Event - Arrivals
Brendon Thorne//Getty Images

The English love a good fascinator, the French still opt for berets, and Rihanna is embracing the bucket. While the idea of donning a hat for an evening affair sounds like a throw-back, it feels truly modern right now. Have fun with your toppers and take a fun fashion risk this holiday season.

12

Go beyond the LBD.

Fashion, Clothing, Fashion show, Fashion model, Haute couture, Fashion design, Dress, Hairstyle, Footwear, Event,
Getty Images

In the wise words of Karl Lagerfeld, "One is never over-dressed or under-dressed with a Little Black Dress." That being said, don't feel limited to only black options. Play with color—another element that is best informed by the time of year. For spring, a romantic pink or soft pastel. For summer go bold in something bright. For fall, rich earth tones and warm neutrals. And winter, deep jewel tones in luxe textures like satin or velvet.

Advertisement - Continue Reading Below
13

Sometimes Denim Is In Order

Clothing, Jeans, White, Fashion model, Denim, Fashion, Waist, Standing, Trousers, Footwear,
Getty Images

Know your audience, but if the venue is casual and you're feeling like getting creative, skip the LBD, throw on some jeans, a cool top and major shoes that stand out in a crowd. You'll instantly be the coolest girl next to a Christmas tree.

14

Solid & Striped Lace-up denim mini dress

Lace-up denim mini dress

Unexpected but still chic!

15

Tread lightly when it comes to trends.

Clothing, Fashion, Leg, Joint, Dress, Fun, Long hair, Thigh,
Getty Images

Despite what you may see on the red carpet—your upcoming event may not be the appropriate opportunity to test-drive a naked dress. Or, if you're dying to try something out of the ordinary (we understand, it's not every day you get to do this) interpret the trend or look in a way that is a bit more palatable. Try a style with strategically placed sheer insets instead of something entirely see-through, or offset a plunging neckline with long sleeves.

Advertisement - Continue Reading Below
16

Cocktail parties aren't just for cocktail dresses.

White, Clothing, Street fashion, Fashion, Suit, Pantsuit, Blazer, Formal wear, Outerwear, Haute couture,
Getty Images

Especially if an event takes place straight after office hours, a sleek blazer and trousers combo is an elegant look that is easy to dress up for evening. Just change your blouse (or remove it altogether) and swap your satchel for a clutch. A jumpsuit is also a great option for similar reasons.

17

When it comes to handbags, less is more.

Clothing, Red carpet, Carpet, Fashion model, Hairstyle, Blond, Thigh, Fashion, Leg, Long hair,
Getty Images

Pick a small purse that will fit the bare essentials and opt for a handheld version like a clutch or diminutive top-handle. Cocktail events are a no-carryall zone.

18

SAINT LAURENT Sunset small croc-effect patent-leather shoulder bag

Sunset small croc-effect patent-leather shoulder bag

Not your average evening bag.

Advertisement - Continue Reading Below
19

Put your best face forward.

Hair, Face, Lip, Hairstyle, Eyebrow, Chin, Beauty, Skin, Cheek, Fashion,
Getty Images

Remember what Marnie said about Hannah on Girls: "She'll put on a good dress and nice shoes and then do her lipstick, and then leave her forehead shiny. It's like, you've come this far, wash your forehead!" A little light concealer or powder and a swipe of mascara are essential—and we can't stress enough the transformational powers of a good lipstick. If your hair is giving you anxiety, a low chignon is an easy, never-fail option that works for any occasion.

20

Comfort is key—to a degree.

Luxury vehicle, Formal wear, Leg, Suit, Fashion, Tuxedo, Footwear, Event, Dress, Little black dress,
Alexi Lubomirski

We rarely say this, but consider your comfort level. Parties are as much about the socializing as they are about the style, and if you're not at ease in your ensemble it will affect how enjoyable your evening is.

Headshot of Sarah Lindig
Sarah Lindig
Senior Digital Editor, Special Projects

Sarah Lindig is the senior digital editor, overseeing special projects for Harper's Bazaar.

Advertisement - Continue Reading Below

The BAZAAR Commandments

Jonas Bresnan / Trunk Archive
From Harper's BAZAAR for L'Oreal Hair Expertise Paris

How To Care For Curly Hair

Taylor Tomasi Hill, Fashion Director, Forty Five Ten; Photo by Jason Jean/Blaublut-Edition.com;
From Harper's BAZAAR for L'Oreal Hair Expertise Paris

How To Care For Color Treated Hair

Clothing, Tire, Wheel, Automotive tire, Automotive design, Alloy wheel, Yellow, Vehicle, Automotive wheel system, Human leg,

The Bazaar Commandments: The Art of Accessories

Clothing, Eyewear, Footwear, Leg, Vision care, Trousers, Outerwear, Bag, Street, Street fashion,

The BAZAAR Commandments: Dressing for a Fashion Job

Advertisement - Continue Reading Below
Advertisement - Continue Reading Below