Question: My lover gets off to an extraordinary degree on being submissive. My imagination is pretty endless but it would be kind if you could assist me with a colourful scenario? (DW)
Answer: My friend, of course. There are many glorious ways to (consensually) abase, abuse and dominate a woman such that she is driven to a frenzy of crazed near climax before you so much as untie her knickers. For BDSM scenes, side-tie underwear is an extremely useful choice. Try the gorgeous Damaris PVC knickers with heart side tie (£122. At Damaris. damaris.co.uk).
Since one must start somewhere (I'm assuming you trust each other, and have safe words in place) let us look to slave-girl positions. These are, videmment, the poses that masters such as yourself may order his sub to keep while he pleasures her, pains her or watches Game Of Thrones.
Begin with her in doggy: on all fours, knees and hands together. This is a demure pose in which your access to her is limited. However, since she has been bad, she is not allowed to stay thus. Count off the ways she has transgressed and order her first to spread her knees apart (the further she spreads, the more uncomfortable it becomes), elevate her hips and stretch her arms out on the floor in front. Here, her forehead is on the floor, her tush in the air, her ass spread and vulnerable - well, she is entirely yours to dominate. Perhaps increase her feeling of submission by blindfolding her. Now almost anything you do will strike marvellous fear into her heart: simply the sound of you picking up a length of chain, and the feel of you trailing the cold metal over her skin, running it under her breasts and across her face and using it (so lightly) to whip between her legs so it curls round and nuzzles her pussy. Once you have made this glancing gesture to the pain and the pleasure she will be treated to later, move away. After all, you've got all night and all day.
Consider the parts of her that don't usually get teased. For example, have her turn her palms up. Circle the soft of her hand with the end of a crop (such as the Crystal Riding Crop by Bo's Tit Bits, £145. At Coco De Mer. coco-de-mer.com), then draw the stiff leather over each finger. Land the crop in your own hand a few times - partly for the sound of it and partly to calibrate your stroke - then mete out still lighter blows, to start with, across her palm. There are few things more addictive than a master who can thrill the whole of a woman's body by f***ing only one not-normally-sexual part of it (and of course her mind). (Rebecca Newman)
