8 Tips to Get Him to Notice You in 10 Days

February 23, 2009

How to Lose a Guy in 10 Days? No offense to the movie, but that's not exactly the advice most women are looking for. The Master Matchmaker and host of the upcoming VH1 reality show Tough Love, Steven Ward shares his best advice for snagging the man of your dreams in days.

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Be attentive: This is not the time to text

Conversation is like kissing. It's a two-way street, and those roads are meant to be shared. Be sure to ask questions, answer questions thoughtfully and engage in conversation. Make eye contact, and please, please, please put your cell phone away. If you must make or take a call, excuse yourself as courteously as possible and don't be away for more than five minutes—or you'll raise suspicion and doubts. Think about it this way: How would you feel if he left you alone to chat to his friend about how the date was going?
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Stop playing hard to get

A guy likes a girl who has got it going on, but if you want to find love in 10 days and you're not around, it isn't going to happen. Being unavailable seems rigid and high-maintenance. If he throws out a time that doesn't work for you, either say yes to the next option or propose a date of your own. If you won't make time early on in the relationship, men take it to mean you definitely won't make time later.

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Let your guard down

Past relationships and bad blind dates may have made you jaded, but don't assume this guy "is just like all the rest." And not that you would, but under no circumstances should you bring up your guy woes around the new object of your affection. Apologies for the cheesy analogy, but if the baggage doesn't fit in the overhead compartment (or under the seat in front of you), it's not going to be an easy trip.
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Try something new

It's usually the man's responsibility to make the date fun, and that puts a lot of pressure on us. So even if you don't usually like the activity we've picked out, go along for the ride with an open mind and positive attitude. Example: He suggests a Red Sox game and you hate baseball. Instead of whining about it, have him buy you some beer and Cracker Jacks and ask him questions about the game. You never know—you might find a new hobby!

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Know the power of your outfit

We all buy into the latest fashion trends, but your goal with your date is to lure him in. Men want to see you in something that shows off your figure but isn't sleazy, which sends a message of desperation. Another sign of desperation is looking like you tried too hard. Guys aren't lying when they say they want a girl who can roll out of bed and still look gorgeous. Find a happy medium, and when in doubt throw on a pair of body-hugging jeans, a top that makes you feel sexyand heels.
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TMI is never a good thing

Sharing too much too soon can be easily misconstrued. Anecdotes and good conversation are always a plus (see tip number one), but when talking about yourself, leave out unnecessary details. On the list of forbidden topics: exes, family plans and anything else that could send him heading for the hills.

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Stop texting and no one will get hurt

Don't be that girl who communicates only via abbreviated words and emoticons—and don't let him be that guy. When you're starting to date someone, texting, e-mailing or instant messaging should be used in emergencies only (like when you lose him at an insanely crowded, loud concert).
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Keep him wanting more

No matter how well a first date is going, be sure it doesn't run into the wee hours of the morning. Every man loves some TLC, but if you want to keep him coming back, I recommend leaving the first couple of dates to intimate goodnight kisses—and be sure to keep those clothes on for now.