Externalizing shame responses in children: The role of fragile-positive self-esteem
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Sander Thomaes
Vrije Universiteit, Amsterdam, The Netherlands
PI Research, Duivendrecht, The Netherlands
Correspondence should be addressed to Mr Sander Thomaes, Vrije Universiteit Amsterdam, Department Of Developmental Psychology, van der Boechorststraat 1, 1081 BT Amsterdam, The Netherlands (e-mail: [email protected])Search for more papers by this authorHedy Stegge
Vrije Universiteit, Amsterdam, The Netherlands
PI Research, Duivendrecht, The Netherlands
Search for more papers by this authorCorresponding Author
Sander Thomaes
Vrije Universiteit, Amsterdam, The Netherlands
PI Research, Duivendrecht, The Netherlands
Correspondence should be addressed to Mr Sander Thomaes, Vrije Universiteit Amsterdam, Department Of Developmental Psychology, van der Boechorststraat 1, 1081 BT Amsterdam, The Netherlands (e-mail: [email protected])Search for more papers by this authorHedy Stegge
Vrije Universiteit, Amsterdam, The Netherlands
PI Research, Duivendrecht, The Netherlands
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When faced with shame, children can either respond in submissive ways to withdraw from their environment or in externalizing ways to oppose their environment. This study tested the hypothesis that fragile-positive views of self predispose children to respond in externalizing ways to shame situations. Narcissism, actual and perceived social preference, global self-worth and propensity towards externalizing shame responding were measured in 122 pre-adolescent children. As expected, results revealed that narcissism, in contrast to global self-worth, was associated with externalizing shame responding. In addition, actual but not perceived social preference was inversely related to externalizing shame responding, suggesting that the social self-perceptions of children prone to employ externalizing shame responses may be inflated. Discussion focuses on the self-regulatory function of externalizing shame responses.
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