50 Simple Little Ways to Feel Sexy

"Feeling confident about your appearance is the first step to genuine sex appeal," says says Eve Marx, author of Beddington Place: Watch Your Back, Cover Your Tracks and contributor to thirdage.com. Give yourself permission to invest in how you look — whether that means a visit to the makeup counter or a new haircut. It'll change what's inside, too.

Take an art class. Or book a last-minute weekend getaway. "Novelty is the greatest aphrodisiac,"says Sandor Gardos, Ph.D., and founder of mypleasure.com. When you live in the moment, anything's possible — and that's exciting, and sexy.

After a hot shower, massage your body with lotion, instead of just slapping it on. Or give yourself a relaxing neck rub. "I brush my skin with a soft brush every morning when I wake up," says Mary McGuire-Wien of New York City. "It makes my skin feel much more alive." Natural health advocates believe that dry brushing reduces toxins, sloughs off dry skin, and may help fight cellulite.

Part your hair on the other side, a teeny move that has a whopping effect. Oh, and every once in a while, you'll have to toss the falling strands back — and you know what the coquettish hair toss does to men.

Wearing something with lots of buttons will naturally turn undressing or a wardrobe change into a striptease as you linger over each button.

Just knowing you're reading something risqué in public is sure to give you a teeny confidence boost. "Erotic novels give women ideas," says Marx. "They respond to stories that fire up their imagination." Mr. Grey, here we come.

When was the last time you invested in a good bra? "Most women are wearing the wrong bra," Marx says. "Don't be scared to spend money on good lingerie. The right foundation will make you feel like a million bucks."

Slow-dance. Really close. Fitting together so snugly and swaying in sync is unbelievably sensual and intimate. It's almost like making love.

Wear slightly smudgy black eyeliner for that smoldering temptress look. Appearing slightly unkempt — as if you just had a roll in the hay — is incredibly provocative.

Every now and then, take a break from blow drying and styling your hair. That slightly tousled, sexily untamed mane will bring out your wild side.

Ever wish you were Joan Holloway from Mad Men or Eva Mendez any day of the week? Pretend to be them! "It's fun to get out of your head and role play," Marx says. Next time you're in a funk and want to feel sexier, emulate your favorite leading lady, and feel your confidence skyrocket.

Throw away those ripped, faded, you've-had-them-for-four-years granny panties and invest in some new underwear. The sexier, the better — but G-strings aren't required. New bikinis, boy shorts, or even basic briefs can make you feel special.

Food serves as a wonderful aphrodisiac, and whipping it up in the kitchen with your partner can make it that much sexier. "It's fun to work closely together in tight quarters and taste food off each other's fingers and lips," Marx says.

There are a million reasons to work out — lose weight, lower stress, and yes, boost your sexiness. Sweat releases endorphins, giving you a natural high. "When I feel low, I hit the gym," says Jaime Sarrio, of Nashville. "I feel strong and sexy after a run on the treadmill or a weight-lifting session."

"How do you ask for sex," wonders Catherine Cardinal, Ph.D., author of The Ten Commandments of Relationships? "You probably mumble it with downcast eyes — couples make less eye contact as years go by. Look directly at him the next time. It'll remind him of the days when he couldn't take his eyes off you."

Get in touch with your body by treating yourself to a sensual foot massage. You have thousands of nerve endings in your feet, and stimulating every one will send bolts of electricity through you. Start with your thumbs in the center of the bottom of your foot and walk them up toward your big and pinkie toes so they're gradually moving away from each other. Then, alternating thumbs, stroke along your arch. Finally, massage each toe, rubbing from bottom to top while pulling it slightly and rotating it in a circle.

Don't get dressed right after taking a shower. Instead, lounge around in a robe that's loosely belted and occasionally gives him a peep show when you move. Kind of naked but temptingly draped, you'll ooze sex appeal.

Just because it's winter and you're all bundled up doesn't mean you can't expose yourself a little. "Invest in nice tights," Marx says. "Great hosiery is a boost to feeling sexy."