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Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus: The Classic Guide to Understanding the Opposite Sex Paperback – April 3, 2012
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In his classic guide to understanding the opposite sex, Dr. John Gray, provides a practical and proven way for men and women to improve their communication and relationships by acknowledging the differences between them.
Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.
Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this timeless book has helped men and women realize how different they can be in their communication styles, their emotional needs, and their modes of behavior, and offers the secrets of communicating without conflicts, allowing couples to give intimacy every chance to grow.
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“A valuable, much-needed book. A contribution to the understanding of the communication styles of men and women.” — Harville Hendrix, author of Getting the Love You Want
“Gray offers a Berlitz of the heart, a translation of that foreign language your spouse is speaking. And hearing.” — USA Today
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Rediscover the most famous relationship book ever published
Once upon a time Martians and Venusians met, fell in love, and had happy relationships together because they respected and accepted their differences. Then they came to Earth and amnesia set in: they forgot they were from different planets.
Based on years of successful counseling of couples and individuals, Men Are from Mars, Women Are from Venus has helped millions of couples transform their relationships. Now viewed as a modern classic, this phenomenal book has helped men and women realize how different they can be in their communication styles, their emotional needs, and their modes of behavior—and offers the secrets of communicating without conflicts, allowing couples to give intimacy every chance to grow.
About the Author
John Gray, Ph.D., is one of the world’s leading relationship experts, and an authority on improving communication styles for couples, companies, and communities. His many books have sold more than fifty million copies in fifty different languages worldwide. John lives with his wife and children in northern California.
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Chapter One
Children Are from Heaven
All children are born innocent and good. In this sense our children are from heaven. Each and every child is already unique and special. They enter this world with their own particular destiny. An apple seed naturally becomes an apple tree. It cannot produce pears or oranges.
As parents, our most important role is to recognize, honor, and then nurture our child's natural and unique growth process. We are not required in any way to mold them into who we think they should be. Yet we are responsible to support them wisely in ways that draw out their individual gifts and strengths.
Our children do not need us to fix them or make them better, but they are dependent on our support to grow. We provide the fertile ground for their seeds of greatness to sprout. They have the power to do the rest. Within an apple seed is the perfect blueprint for its growth and development. Likewise, within the developing mind, heart, and body of every child is the perfect blueprint for that child's development. Instead of thinking that we must do something to make our children good, we must recognize that our children are already good.
Within the developing mind, heart, and body of every child is the perfect blueprint for that child's development.
As parents we must remember that Mother Nature is always responsible for our children's growth and development. Once, when I asked my mother the secret of her parenting approach, she responded this way: "While raising six boys and one girl, I eventually discovered there was little that I could do to alter them. I realized it was all in God's hands. I did my best and God did the rest." This realization allowed her to trust the natural growth process. It not only made the process easier for her, but also helped her to not get in the way. This insight is important for every parent. If one doesn't believe in God, one can just substitute "genes" - It's all in the genes.
By applying positive-parenting skills, parents can learn to support their children's natural growth process and to avoid interfering. Without an understanding of how children naturally develop, parents commonly experience unnecessary frustration, disappointment, worry, and guilt and unknowingly block or inhibit parts of their children's development. For example, when a parent doesn't understand a child's unique sensitivity, not only is the parent more frustrated, but the child gets the message something is wrong with him. This mistaken belief, "something is wrong with me," becomes imprinted in the child and the gifts that come from increased sensitivity are restricted.
Every Child Has His or Her Own Unique Problems
Besides being born innocent and good, every child comes into this world with his or her own unique problems. As parents, our role is to help children face their unique challenges. I grew up in a family of seven children and, although we had the same parents and the same opportunities, all seven children turned out completely different. I now have three daughters ages twenty-five, twenty-two, and thirteen. Each one is, and has always been, completely different, with a different set of strengths and weaknesses.
As parents, we can help our children, but we cannot take away their unique problems and challenges. With this insight, we can worry less, instead of focusing on changing them or solving their problems. Trusting more helps the parent as well as the child. We can let our children be themselves and focus more on helping them grow in reaction to life's challenges. When parents respond to their children from a more relaxed and trusting place, children have a greater opportunity to trust in themselves, their parents, and the unknown future.
Each child has his or her own personal destiny. Accepting this reality reassures parents and helps them to relax and not take responsibility for every problem a child has. Too much time and energy is wasted trying to figure out what we could have done wrong or what our children should have done instead of accepting that all children have issues, problems, and challenges. Our job as parents is to help our children face and cope with them successfully. Always remember that our children have their own set of challenges and gifts, and there is nothing we can do to alter who they are. Yet we can make sure that we give them the opportunities to become the best they can be.
Children have their own set of challenges and gifts, and there is nothing we can do to alter who they are.
At difficult times, when we begin to think something is wrong with our children, we must come back to remembering that they are from heaven. They are perfect the way they are and have their own unique challenges in life. They not only need our compassion and help, but they also need their challenges. Their unique obstacles to overcome are actually necessary for them to become all that they can become. The problems they face will assist them in finding the support they need and in developing their special character.
Children need compassion and help, but they also need their unique challenges to grow.
For every child, the healthy process of growing up means there will be challenging times. By learning to accept and embrace the limitations imposed by their parents and the world, children can learn such essential life skills as forgiveness, delayed gratification, acceptance, cooperation, creativity, compassion, courage, persistence, self-correction, self-esteem, self-sufficiency, and self-direction. For example:
* Children cannot learn to be forgiving unless there is someone to forgive.
* Children cannot develop patience or learn to delay gratification if everything comes their way when they want it.
* Children cannot learn to accept their own imperfections if everyone around them is perfect.
* Children cannot learn to cooperate if everything always goes their way.
* Children cannot learn to be creative if everything is done for them.
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- Publisher : Harper Paperbacks; First Quill Edition (April 3, 2012)
- Language : English
- Paperback : 368 pages
- ISBN-10 : 0060574216
- ISBN-13 : 978-0060574215
- Item Weight : 2.31 pounds
- Dimensions : 5.31 x 0.83 x 8 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #3,039 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
- #4 in Men's Gender Studies
- #39 in Interpersonal Relations (Books)
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John Gray, Ph.D. is the #1 bestselling relationship author of all time. He is the author of over 20 books, including The New York Times #1 Best-Selling Relationship Book of All Time: MEN ARE FROM MARS, WOMEN ARE FROM VENUS. His books have sold over 50 million copies in 50 different languages around the world.
John is a leading internationally recognized expert in the fields of communication and relationships. His unique focus is assisting men and women in understanding, respecting and appreciating their differences. John's advice can be easily used to improve relationships at home and in the workplace.
For more than 35 years, John Gray has conducted public and private seminars for thousands of participants. John entertains and inspires audiences with practical communication techniques. John's mission is for men and women to understand, respect, appreciate and work together.
John Gray is a popular speaker on the national and international lecture circuit and often appears on television and radio programs to discuss his work. He has made guest appearances on such shows as Oprah, The Dr. Oz Show, Good Morning America, The Today Show, The CBS Morning Show, Live with Regis, Fox & Friends Weekend, Good Morning New York, Larry King Live, CNN and Company and many others. He has been profiled in major publications across the United States. John Gray lives with his wife and children in Northern California.
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Nobody has been so insightful like John in enlightening my life in that area. I also highly recommend his book Mars and Venus on a date for dating people.
"Men Are From Mars, Women are from Venus" leans on a lot of stereotypes and personal experiences of the author to assemble its opinion on what the ideal relationship between a man and woman looks like, and because of this, it is not a perfect fit for everyone (or arguably, anyone). That said, stereotypes exist because they apply to a significant portion of society, so it would be wise to at least know the stereotypes and societal norms of the other gender. If you haven't gone beyond "Women/Men are weird/don't make sense" stage, then it's probably worth the buy just for the sake of learning the generalities.
As with anything that's said about groups of people and then applied to indviduals, you'll find that neither you nor your partner totally fits the mold of the things Gray talks about, and I've met many a couple that has the exact opposite experience (Cavewoman engineer, emotional man who wants to talk about every detail of the day). As you read a book like this, you need to consider what from it actually applies to your partner (and to you) and what doesn't. It could really be helpful if both of you read it and discuss what you agree or disagree with about your depictions, and about the practicals that he offers and whether they really are what your partner wants.
The beauty of the book is that it helps people who are used to their way of thinking to see that other methods are just as valid and come from generations of success in fulfilling different societal roles. The danger in it is twofold. First, these societal roles are changing rapidly, so a lot of this won't fit or doesn't apply the same way it would 2 generations ago. Second, your partner is an individual who defies any stereotype...they will fit some of the mold and not other parts. If you take every generality in the book for face value without talking to your partner about it (that ALL women, for instance, ride emotional rollercoasters and have emotional breakdowns at their low point), you may anger your partner and make them feel like their individuality is being ignored, or that you just really don't know them at all. This stereotyping happens on both sides, so if you're reading it together and your partner does this, take the time to discuss it and define how you're different from what the book portrays.
The book is only a starting point for understanding, meant to lead you back to your partner and give you some light practicals to change along the way. There are many books that dig into the topic much deeper and in a more accurate, scientific manner (with actual research and real PhDs!), and if you want more info on them, there are lots of other reviews on here that will point you that way. Again, no book will take the place of knowing yourself and your partner. But, if you are stumped and not sure where to begin in understanding something your partner does or thinks, this is a good place to start, as it is a simple, conversational read with memorable examples. If you are patient and careful, it will provoke you toward questions and conversations to have together that will lead you to the real, individualized answers for your sweetheart.
A girl friend of mine said "you don't understand women and it's evident that she did not understand men" she was a little more detailed but mention I should read the book. I have read it three times in 2 months, each time it gave me more insight. What I discovered was that I was being very supportive until I had to really focus on a project for work, it's was my first project as a project manager with a new company. At the end of day I was exhausted and did not feel like talking, she took it personal with negativity and blame which got my defenses up feeling attacked, blamed, unappreciated, unloved, not understood as if I was doing it on purpose. This is the moment I wish we had had this book.
John is a great writer, he is sensitive in his delivery explaining men first and thier natural habits within a man's world, it's spot on and made me laugh. I think this takes pressure off women from feeling attacked, or as if most of the issues come from women's emotional and hormonal differences. None of us are wrong to feel the way we do, but I think in today's world we all need to work on delivery and response to our partners who we are supposed to trust, support, love and work diffrences out understanding where the other is coming from as just a fact of nature not on an emotional level. Hard concept at first until you read this.
As a man, I highly suggest reading this book, girls do need more patience, love, support, reassurance and validation, thier world is complex where a man's mind is black and white focusing on the task and completing the mission. It's a more simple process.
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⚡This book is viewed as Modern Classic even though this book was published more than 30 years ago. ⚡This book will make us realize how Men and Women are different from each other and how to communicate their needs in such a way that conflict doesn't arise and intimacy is given every chance to grow.
Major insights of the book:
⚡How to build a strong, lasting, and loving relationship.
⚡It helps to read and understand the mood of the opposite gender and respond effectively.
⚡How to convey our needs and how to get what we want without nag or bullying.
⚡How to communicate our deep feelings in a better way.
⚡How to avoid unnecessary arguments and tackle painful situations.
⚡ It helps to understand your partner, friends, or colleagues better than ever before.