GAY AND LESBIAN COUPLES IN THERAPY: PERSPECTIVES FOR THE CONTEMPORARY FAMILY THERAPIST

Claudia Bepko,

Claudia Bepko

Sweetser Family Institute

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Thomas Johnson,

Thomas Johnson

Metuchen, New Jersey

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Claudia Bepko,

Claudia Bepko

Sweetser Family Institute

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Thomas Johnson,

Thomas Johnson

Metuchen, New Jersey

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First published: 08 June 2007

https://doi.org/10.1111/j.1752-0606.2000.tb00312.x

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Claudia Beplo, LCSW, Assistant Director of Outpatient Services, The Sweetser Family Institute, Portland, Marine.

Thomas Johnson, MSW, EdD, is in private practice, Metuchen, New Jersy, Center for Family Studies, Springfield, New Jersy.

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Abstract

This paper outlines the major concerns of gay and lesbian couples who seek therapy. Presenting problems are classified as either internal to the relationship or as external (contextual) ones that reflect the influence of oppressive cultural and gender biases. Throughout the article, distinctive therapy methods are described that address the unique concerns of lesbian and gay couples, with special sensitivity to heterosexist and homophobic bias.

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